Day 28: List 5 things you wish you had said and to whom
Hmmmm anyone that knows me will know that not saying things has never been my problem ask me things I wish I had never said and that would be a different matter. So rather than list 5 things I wish I had said I will talk about the two people who I wished I had asked more of.
Both my grandads died before my own children were born and before I developed a real interest in researching my family tree. As a result I am left with a lot of dead ends and lost opportunities to tell my children about where they come from.
My mums dad was a prisoner of war held in Germany, and that was about as much as I ever knew he never spoke of it and I never asked you just didn’t back then. But now I think I would have asked questions if not directly then I would have asked about growing up in a family that you felt so hurt by you lied about your age to sign up, I would have asked so many questions about his parents and knowing what I know now from my grandma about his family I would have understood him so much better than I had the chance to.
What we experience shapes who we are if we hide what made us who we are we give people the wrong impression of ourselves.
The same is true of my dads dad, he never mentioned family at all other than one brother who came to visit, maybe if my grandma had been alive it may have been different but she died before I was a year old. There are so many not necessarily secrets but things left unsaid on this side of the family it seems impossible that the truth will ever be known despite the fact I could have been walking past relatives houses on a daily basis and never known who they were.
I would say if you have older relatives ask the questions, learn their stories, cherish their memories, tomorrow they may all be gone and then it will be too late